可爱老女人

Love is a limited substance. When you give love to someone new, you have to take it away from someone old. My father took every ounce of love he had and dumped it in Paris. People like us think we've been cursed by God, but, in fact, we've been cursed by our parents. You look in the mirror, and you see an adult. But you have to look more carefully. There's a big piece of you that never grew up. It may have grown tall, but not up. You spend your life waiting for your parents to come back and make it all right. But they don't come back. It's not all right. You have to somehow move past them. You have to somehow convince yourself that you don't nedd those people. Because you don't.

说句实话，电影剧情不出彩，逻辑上也有很多漏洞，没有高潮，整个过程让人感觉到压抑沉闷。
但是我仍然推荐这部电影，为一群特殊的人：那些生活在因第三者而父母离异阴影下的孩子们。
电影引起我的共鸣，一方面是主演们精彩的表演（情感表现的太到位了），另一方面是影片的立意。
先放一段影片立意的集中体现：“My name is Mathias Gold. When I used to have friends, they called me Jim, and I would answer. I grew up on Park Avenue in New York City. My parents were wealthy. I was born with a silver knife in my back. Anytime anyone follows their heart, someone else gets their heart broken. There’s always detritus, always hurt, always pain. Love is a limited substance. When you give love to someone new, you have to take it away from someone old. My father took every ounce of love he had and dumped it in Paris. People like us think we've been cursed by God, but, in fact, we've been cursed by our parents. You look in the mirror, and you see an adult. But you have to look more carefully. There's a big piece of you that never grew up. It may have grown tall, but not up. You spend your life waiting for your parents to come back and make it all right. But they don't come back. It's not all right. You have to somehow move past them. You have to somehow convince yourself that you don't need those people, because you don't.”
作为因第三者父母离异而受到一定伤害的人，看到Mathias Gold这段独白的时候泪目了。有过相同经历的人都会问自己，那个可怜而渺小的自己：我做错了什么？是因为我做错了什么才让这个家庭分崩离析吗？是我做错了什么父母亲才不愿意爱我吗？最后就像主角所说的，我们以为自己被上帝诅咒，最后才终于明白，是我们的父母亲伤害了我们。而这种伤害持续着，哪怕我们已经白发苍苍，内心的某处角落里那个不被爱的孩子仍然在无助的张望。
可这部影片为我们展现了“救赎”。作为两个家庭的受害者（男女主），他们在剥开真相的过程中绝望疯狂，茫然无助，最后相互依偎，也终于懂得了：“我们不必期待或等待父母的改变，因为我们不需要了，时间会冲淡一切，而生命是掌握在自己手中的，我们要为自己灿烂的活下去”。
我其实不太愿意聊电影中母亲的角色，无关于演员（演员真的非常棒）。男女主童年的悲剧她要承担一半责任，但是在她犯下错误（也许她不认为那是错误）的几十年光阴中，她从未认为她伤害了两个孩子的童年。这是个可悲的事情，在她追随着自己的心而活的时候，无可避免的会伤害一些人，这其中就包括她亲生女儿。电影中女主人说了一句话：在你15岁之前你是我的孩子，15岁之后你是我的女儿。我从未要求过你陪在我身边一辈子！她以为那个被戴了绿帽的丈夫会爱这个女儿，但在她的垂垂暮年才发现她女儿并不曾被父母任何一方爱过的事实。我能深刻感受到女主的绝望，她一直在等待着，默默陪伴守护在母亲身边，乞求一点点母爱。
最后献给所有受到过相同伤害的朋友们：愿你们如主角一样完成“救赎”，让时间慢慢冲淡童年的伤害，认真勇敢的为自己而活。

「I'm 90. Subtlety's not something that interests me.」


「If you do not love me, I shall not be loved.」


「Anytime anyone follows their heart, someone else gets their heart broken. There'e always detritus, always hurt, always pain. Love is a limited substance. When you give love to someone new, you have to take it away from someone old.
People like us think we've been cursed by God, but, in fact, we've been cursed by our parents. You look in the mirror, and you see an adult. But you have to look more carefully. There'e a big piece of you that never grew up. It may have grown tall, but not up. You spend your life waiting for your parents to come back and make it all right. But they don't come back. It's not all right. You have to somehow move past them. You have to somehow convince yourself that you don't need those people, because you don't.」


「I'm not beautiful. I'm nearly old.
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A perfect flower is nearly old.」

每个人都会自怜自哀，有时候会去责备自己的人生，甚至去怪罪命运不公，但是岁月已经蹉跎，伤痛已经被印刻，怎么办？
电影的开头是平淡的，一个失意绝望充满对父亲愤恨，一个经历坎坷颓废对爱失去希望的老男人Mathias就这么随着法国特有的乡村风情出现，导演慢慢的深入，将这个男人的故事展开……童年缺乏父母的爱，母亲有重度抑郁不断自杀不断抢救回来造成了青少年时期的忧郁，缺乏安全感，19岁亲眼看见母亲自杀而亡，一生伤痛，随后自杀未成，成年时3次婚姻的失败，酗酒，颓废，失去爱与被爱的权利，渴望温情但又把失败者的标签贴在自己的灵魂里，生活的起伏跌宕给了他良好的教养和狡黠的经验，看他迫不及待的想要卖房甚至去问Mathild夫人的私人医生Mathild夫人身体状况如何多么迫不及待的希望Mathild夫人早点归西，导演这里处理的很有意思，Mathias的演员也把老男人的滑头，敏感，刻画得栩栩如生……
当Mathias找到照片的一刻开始，电影慢慢将镜头的重心转到Mathild夫人身上，Mathias与Mathild夫人的几段对手戏都非常经典，没有歇斯底里的发泄，只有深切的悲伤，压抑的痛苦，Mathild夫人说Mathias的名字是根据自己的名字起的时候，那种甜蜜和后面发现Mathias的母亲去世时的痛苦多么矛盾，Mathild夫人一生都在爱Mathias的父亲，在她眼里，这个人是带着光辉的，她没有意识或者说不愿意去面对她间接对Mathias的伤害对Mathias母亲的伤害，但她一直内疚，她以爱为荣，她以爱为耻，于是有了对爱情的放纵和对家庭的妥协，她勇敢去爱，她为爱妥协，当她知道Mathias曾经自杀，她触动很大，当她知道Mathias的母亲是自杀的，她情绪崩溃了……经历过那么多的她，懂得爱的慈悲，她对Mathias和自己女儿之间的感情，明知他们有可能是兄妹她说：“I don’t think the world will come to end because of that. I see nothing catastrophic in the two of you comforting each other. No virtue in two of you being lonely.” 对这段话仁者见仁智者见智。Mathild夫人不相信他们是兄妹。关于乱伦说的那就是放屁。可惜还是不少卫道士将狭隘的目光放在这个上面。故事将要步入Mathild夫人女儿的道德说与负面情绪爆发的前夕时，一声枪响，就如春天的惊雷一样，打碎所有负面情绪，然后春雨滋润大地，万物复苏，电影到了末尾，甩开伤痛。
电影里有很多线索，几条暗线需要看的人慢慢的品味，其中有一条线索贯穿了全剧，Mathias的父亲，他当然是值得被爱的，但是他的爱只给了Mathild夫人，他对Mathias母亲的伤害与愧疚也是没有办法弥补的，关于这种矛盾，有谁能分清出对与错呢
最后，时光已逝，只争朝夕，“I’m not beautiful. I’m nearly old.”正是如此，不再在过去伤痛沉溺，走向阳光，就算已经不再年轻，还不晚不是么？
PS:附加一段很有意义的独白，也许会有你自己感悟。
“My name is Mathias Gold. When I used to have friends, they called me Jim, and I would answer. I grew up on Park Avenue in New York City. My parents were wealthy. I was born with a silver knife in my back. Anytime anyone follows their heart, someone else gets their heart broken. There’s always detritus, always hurt, always pain. Love is a limited substance. When you give love to someone new, you have to take it away from someone old. My father took every ounce of love he had and dumped it in Paris. People like us think we've been cursed by God, but, in fact, we've been cursed by our parents. You look in the mirror, and you see an adult. But you have to look more carefully. There's a big piece of you that never grew up. It may have grown tall, but not up. You spend your life waiting for your parents to come back and make it all right. But they don't come back. It's not all right. You have to somehow move past them. You have to somehow convince yourself that you don't need those people, because you don't.”